We looked at the QUALITIES that they demonstrated in their lives, and at their CHARACTER.
Take a moment to recall the particular qualities that made Nic and Barb so great.
Do you think those qualities are reserved for special people? Or do you think that perhaps those qualities are in all of us and we just have to tap into them and develop them?
Sometimes it is tempting to look at people who have successful lives, and think it must have been easy for them? Do you know someone who makes their happiness and success look easy? Perhaps a friend of your parents? or a TV personality?
Do you believe their life really is easy?
What might they be doing that is different to other people?
Let's examine that word "SUCCESS". What does it mean to you?
What does the life of a SUCCESSFUL person look like?
Make a list of 5 things you believe are EVIDENCE of SUCCESS. Share these ideas with the class.
So what happens to UNSUCCESSFUL people?
What does their life look like?
Presumably we all want some level of SUCCESS in our lives. Somewhere between a lack of success and an abundance of it, we have to get good at the things that matter.
Make a list of 5 basic, but important things that matter in everyone's life.
Who provides these for you now?
Now make a list of 5 more things that matter very much in your life.
Who makes them happen for you?
You are only 13 or 14 years old. You are not supposed to be providing everything for yourself yet. But within 4 years, that will change. And even a very BASIC life needs someone to run it.
You may not have decided yet, what you want to do as a career. But you do need to know how to get the world to take you seriously so that when you leave school, you will have some options.
What does the word OPTIONS mean to you?
How do you think you might get the world to take you seriously?
What are the things that will MATTER when you are no longer at school?
You are all young enough, smart enough and attractive enough to build a successful life, but it can't be done in a day, or a week, or even 6 months or a year.
You need to get started because in 4 years time, the world will be ready to roll WITH you, or OVER you. Which would you prefer?
Think about Nic and Barb. What would they do now if they were in your shoes?
Sometimes we have to dig deep inside ourselves to find our strength of character, but it is always there waiting. Like a button waiting to be pushed. We just have to DECIDE to push it.
Can you think of reasons why we don't all push the right buttons?
A wise man once said "the definition of insanity is doing exactly the same thing and expecting a different result".
What are some of the things that you do over and over again, that are not getting you anywhere.
Write them down. Decide to change them.
What do you think might happen if you changed your pattern?
With only 3 years until you will be expected to function like an adult, there is not a minute to lose. Personal qualities, a solid education, good manners, a healthy body - these are all things that have currency in the world.
There are very few employers out there who are looking for uneducated, unhealthy, ill mannered people to offer a job to. This is not rocket science either. Obviously it takes some effort to make the most of ourselves.
Can you think of something you could put more effort into, to improve your prospects?
Write it down.
Can you think of some aspect of yourself that you want to change?
Write it down.
Can you think of one thing that you really want to have in your life and are prepared to work for?
Write it down.
You know, kindness has currency too. It makes you feel better about yourself.
Can you think of one kind thing you could do between now and bedtime?
Write it down.
Can you think of one thing you have been putting off for ages.
Write it down now promise yourself you will get it done before tomorrow. You will feel fantastic.
It's ok if you have been procrastinating for ages. Most people do. In fact most people procrastinate their whole life, hanging out together talking about all the things they are GONNA do. Trouble is they never do them! And then they just get lost in the crowd.
And that is a real shame, because the secret to moving your life forward is in ACTION - moving away from the crowd and stepping forward into your life. ACTION is the key.
Make a decision.
Get started
Keep going.
Those 3 steps will put you in the top 18%.
If you can stick to it for 1 month, you will be in the top 5%
If you can make it your NEW HABIT... .... YOU WILL SUCCEED.
In order to move from childish things into a productive adult life that runs smoothly you are going to need to make some changes.
Another wise man once said, "if you don't change direction, you will end up where you are headed".
Where are you headed?
You can be in the driver's seat you know.
If you have trouble getting ORGANISED, or making that DECISION - go see Sarah the youth worker, or speak with Chappy. They will be a fantastic support to you. Specially when you tell them you want to change direction and have more options.
Nic and Barb are special. But they are not ALIENS! They are people like you and me.
They just made a DECISION a long time ago.
They got started.
And they kept going.
Let's look at these steps more closely:
MAKE A DECISION
That means decide what you want to change, or achieve. It also means make a decision to take ACTION. Promise yourself. There is nothing worse than lying to yourself or letting yourself down. Promise yourself that you will make it happen. Remember, giving up has serious consequences. Where would Nic be if he had given up? Where would Barb be? What would their lives look like now?
GET STARTED
You might need help to get started. To remind you. Or to help you get organised. Depending on what you want to do, or how much you want to change stuff, you may need to write it down or have someone write it down for you. If there is no-one at home to do this, Chappy or Sarah will. So will Mrs Pass. Getting started is a really good feeling.
KEEP GOING
Keeping going is the really tricky part. Maybe you forget, or get tired. Maybe you have a moment of weakness and want to quit. If that happens, pick yourself up, say to yourself "I blew it, but that's ok. Now where was I. Let's start again."
21 TIMES
It takes 21 times thinking carefully about what you are doing, to change a habit. so if you can stick to your decision for 3 weeks, it will get easier after that. It will become a HABIT and pretty soon you won't even notice that something is different.
TAKE 5 MINUTES
Now take 5 minutes to think about yourself. The real key to success is asking yourself the right QUESTIONS.
Do you want a successful life? Do you want a basic life? What might you need to change?
Write it down.
Congratulations! You have already started